How can I prove tto my mom that I'm ready for a...?

Question

HORSE! I've wanted one for ever! She says I f i can prove to her im ready then I can get lessons. if i get lessons then must be very responsible and caring to the horses there. THENits a "maybe"

Answer 1

Be patient. Take your time learn as much as you can.

Horses are a big time and money commitment.



With my mom i had to show that i could multi task.

Keep my grades up and ride 4 and 5 times a week.



You have to be ready to spend all your time and alot of your own money on your horse.

I didn't mind when i was younger, but now I'm a senior in high school and i want to drive and buy things. but its grain or new fancy shirts. What do you think is a higher priority.



Just help your mom know how much you love it and if she decides that financially you can afford to have one, just be very thankful.

Dont be a brat about it i know alot of girls who didn't get a horse by being like " I have to have it, i need it. I'm tierd of lesson i need my own horse"



Enjoy your lessons, i miss lessons on different horses.

Today i do have my own horses, but i never begged. I just mentioned it a few times. I just enjoyed my lessons and was happy to be able to ride and am very thankful for my horses today.



All my spare time belongs to my horses as well as most of my money so be ready lol.



And deff keep your grades up, still its keep your grades up or Bye bye horses.



Be patient and enjoy learning as much as you can.



Good luck

Answer 2

Oh honey, I understand your dilemma.



As an old horsewoman here's what I recommend.



1. Make the very best grades in school that you can.

2. If you need help with grades, speak up about getting a tutor so you can make good grades.

3. Do your home chores without being asked.

4. Be responsible about who your friends are - make sure they're nice, polite, responsible kids just like you are.

5. This summer, try to volunteer at a local stable (if you're old enough and there is one near you) in exchange for lessons and riding.

6. Learn as much as you can from other horse owners, internet, magazines etc.



TAKE LESSONS! there is nothing better than lessons for a new rider - you learn how to ride properly. Also, after a few weeks of lessons, you will know if riding is the sport for you.



Now then. Think of this. Buying the horse is just the beginning. There's the upkeep - Feed, boarding, vet bills, worming, hoof care, equipment, hauling, show fees, clothing, boots, helmet etc. Depending on your area that can run into thousands of dollars per year. So buying a horse is no small consideration.



For Mom & Dad - consider this. I once had a parent come to me and insist that I do everythin I could to keep his daughter happy with her horse. That way he knew that his daughter was safe and sound, getting good and dirty - and having a ball with her horse. AND she was NOT at the mall with a bunch of hooligans or out with some punk doing drugs or getting pregnant.

Answer 3

You didn't say if your mother or father had horses as a kid....that will make a difference. Its hard to prove when you can' t compare to anything else (a dog or cat is not the same responsibility) , so I would sit down and ask YOUR MOM in her eyes how you can prove to her. You may also want to find out what it would cost to keep a horse in your area, how much lessons cost, how much horses cost, and in some areas people actually share horses...and costs. Take the information to your mom and ask her if this is a financially reality for your family. Put together a goal plan and show your Mom when you reach the goals to the reward....Lessons Learn as much about horses as you can, riding is such a small part of being a horseman. I figure it is 4-6 hours of work to 1 hour of riding.

Answer 4

When I was young, my mom told me the EXACT same thing, and now I have had a horse for 13 years!! The most important thing is to show her that you are financially capable. Start a savings account and budget how much you want to spend, then show her how you are working towards your goal. Also, study up on responsible horsemanship, including caring for your horse. Prove to her that you could take care of it, and that you would be able to deal with an adverse situation. And finally, look into barns and boarding. If you can show her a barn that meets your financial needs and is safe and preferably has an instructor on-site, then you will be ready when she asks the next question: And just where do you plan on keeping your horse? :) Good luck!!

Answer 5

So what are you waiting for? Find the best riding stables (one that treats their horses well too) around and begin lessons. Also, see if you can help out over weekends there and stuff.

If you have a SPCA in the area that also does horses, see if you can tag there to help out, you'll learn a lot that way. Horse care is a lot of things you need to know.

I hope you're going to be stabling your horses at the riding school (always a better option when you're starting out). Makes spotting small issues easier since they have the experience to do just that, paddock care etc too.

Now go and enjoy the new adventure, but be sure to help out your mom and be super nice to her too, after all she's going to be footing a large bill each month.

Answer 6

Take lessons for a while maybe do some barn chores like mucking out stalls and putting the horses in the fields. Once you do that maybe co-board a horse and if you can still do that with enough time on your hands for work and stuff your mom might re-consider a horse.

Answer 7

Honestly, if you can muck stalls or do something in exchange for lessons on caring for the horse, then once you know the basics try and lease one of the lesson horses and once you have proved you can take care of the leased horse maybe you can get your own. Your mom probably doesn't want to get you a horse because she is afraid you will outgrow it or get bored and then she is stuck with a horse. Getting a leased horse is better for her because if you do get bored, there is no obligation to keep it, you just end the lease.

Answer 8

I'd say come up with an agreement with your mom. Doing chores in exchange for lessons, etc. Some barns' schooling programs will let you work off your lessons by grooming, etc. That's a great option because not only do you get free lessons, you learn all about taking care of horses before you get one of your own.

Answer 9

Find a person in your area who has horses. Ask if you can be there twice a day to feed and clean stalls and to scrub water buckets. Learn basic horsemanship FIRST, before you worry about learning how to ride. Get out there in the rain and snow and feed a horse before you go to school in the morning. Delay your evening activities because you have to go "feed your horse." Save your money and help pay for shoes, trims, vaccinations, and feed. There is a lot to learn about horses that has nothing to do with riding them. If all you had to do was show up and hop on the horse and ride, and then go home, that's not proper horsemanship. That was a pony ride. Find someone who will let you break a sweat caring for their horse, and your mom will be impressed. Tell this person that you dont' want to ride, you just want to learn how to care for a horse first. That'll prove to your mom that you're ready.

Answer 10

Get a job or volenteer at the local stables you may get a good deal on one if you are around the right person and who knows you may be able to board it where you work best of both worlds a job and a horse and you done it all on your own Now what mom can say no to that responsability

Answer 11

1.Keep your grades up.

2. Always have a clean room. (mom's love that.)

3. Try offering to pay for part of the lessons or find out if your local stable allows kids to work for lessons(most do, i know mine does.)

4. After your mom lets you get lessons find out if you can work for board.

5. Learn everything you can about horses.

6. Most importantly, don't constantly bother your mom about it, it will just slow the process.

Answer 12

Horses are super expensive. In the US, it's $1800-$2400 a year to maintain a horse. That's for 30 years. If times are tight maybe you really shouldn't get a horse.

Answer 13

well my mom pulled the same thing with me and one year she said do you want a horse or a stero system and i said horse and you know what she bought me a boombox ha ha ha but this is how i got mt first horse you know when you go to like the tack and feed stores or in the news paper for ranches well get the phone number and call them up and ask them if they need any help and if they say yes dont worry about being paid cause if your really wanted a horse you would not care about being paid to help out and when you get there do what need to be done and you mom will think that you are really responsible. and to look really good take a sheat of paper if you are the one who will feed them chat what time they eat and how much they will eat your mom will love she will eat it up i promiss you i did the same thin ang i got ine horse on january 17,06 and another on on may 19,06 it works any questions e-mail me back

Answer 14

Considering that she's going to be the one financially responsible for this horse, most likely.....it's not a matter of ONLY if YOU'RE ready for a horse, but have you ever considered if she's ready (overall, not just financially), to add a horse to the family?

Answer 15

Trust me I know how hard it is to prove to moms that you're ready to get a horse. One thing DON'T BEG, it gets you nowhere. Take lessons then show her your school horse. She'll see how clean and taken care of it is. Trust me it works!

Answer 16

Offer the local barn or stable to work for free or to get a lessons.

They will work you to death, cleaning stalls ect...but at least you may get a free lesson once a week.

That way you took the responsibility to get lessons by yourself.

Then later on when you and your parents agree that all of you can Handel the responsibility and the costs...both..

Answer 17

Try and prove it to her by raising your own money somehow. Work at the barn. Then she will think "wow she is trying really hard maybe I should pay for her now!"

Answer 18

be AMZINGLY SUPER UBERLY nice to her at ALL times. Clean and take care of everything and dont bugg her to much i kknow parents absoulutly hate that and are more likely to say no if you do. Good luck! i like riding too. =]

Answer 19

then start being responsible duh!!